The Causal Theory · as in cause and effect
We become who we are by how we were treated.
Thus, we either pass on the old or revised behaviors to our own children and those we encounter. Nurture, not nature, writes the pattern. And patterns can be rewritten.
i.
Babies imprint
From birth, mirror neurons shape what feels "normal" from how a child is treated. That's how attachment and empathy are passed down, or not.
ii.
Parent and child first
The most important and influential relationship in life is the one between parent and child.
iii.
Partners still matter
How we relate to our parenting partner, together or apart, still matters profoundly for the children.
iv.
Never too late
Healing follows humility and commitment. You can change yourself, your family, and your child at any age.